What happens when everything is falling apart? 

As travelers, we are putting ourselves out there a lot. 

So much has to come into place. 

The great recruiter who is on our side and paying us in a way where we feel confident. 

The housing that fingers crossed looks like we saw on craigslist. 

The interview where we hope all the questions will prepare us for the expectations at this assignment. 

The thoughts? Will they like us? Will I do a good job? Will I make new friends? Will I be lonely? 

Most of the time we learn the skills to roll with the punches. 

We learn to laugh at the random places we lay our heads. 
We learn to push through that first week on the job when it feels everything is spinning. 
We learn to be bold and make friends in such unexpected places. 

But sometimes. 

Sometimes we don’t. 

There will be some weeks that are really hard. 
Where it feels the word is against you. 
Where you get attacked and you don’t know why. 
Where you are in serious need of peanut butter cups. 

I want to talk about those weeks. 

Why? 
Because I just had one. 

And they suck. 
And they hurt. 

This week I had multiple attacks on what felt like my character. 
Attacks on Nomadicare. 
Attacks on if I could be trusted. 

I was already burnt out and it was a kick when what I really needed was a thank you or a hug. 

But life is not always going to give us hugs. Sometimes it will give us lessons. 

And even though in the moment you think “what the hell world” doesn’t mean that the lesson is not exactly what we need. 

For me, Nomadicare got some mean emails. The emails were completely misinformed about how I find my recruiters and run my business. Now mind you Nomadicare is like my child and when someone talks crap about my child I want to puff up. And after working 75 hours that week and feeling exhausted I also wanted to cry “Why are people so mean when I am trying to help!!” 

But instead, I listened. I wanted to understand why anyone would think these things. And because I took a deep breath and listened I learned more about an outsiders view and make a connection where there could have been choice words. 

It also made me step back and really think about Nomadicare and it’s mission. And at the end of the day no matter what people say or think about me and what I’m putting in this world I know I am living in alignment with my values. I know how much care I have for my process and in helping new travelers so they don’t go through what I did. And in that, I can always go to bed feeling great about trying to do good in this world. No one can take that away from me. 

What people think about you does not equal truth. 

I am learning to stand in my own truth no matter what people think about me. I know me. 

But at the end of the day, it still hurt. So what do we do now to be there for ourselves? Especially if we are alone and traveling!! 

What do we do: 

1. Slow down and have grace towards yourself. Remember you are doing your best and you are amazing. Let yourself feel sad if you need to and let go of the need to be perfect or do it all right. Meet yourself where you are at and just hang out there for a minute without trying to reason it or overthink it. Be the nurturing mother to yourself. Curl up, pour that glass of wine, eat the ice cream, watch the movie and leave the judgment at the door. 

2. Lay down and look at the stars. Find the brightest one. And listen to what it says to you. It will tell you exactly what you need to hear. For me last night it told me to stop being so hard on myself. And breathe. And they reminded me tomorrow is another day. 

3. Write your gratitude. And feel it. 
When you are feeling so low realize you are in control of your state of mind. And a fast way to start shifting that energy flow is gratitude. Yes, you have heard this. I hear this all the time. But somehow the power of actually writing my gratitude down- and taking the time to put my hand on my heart and going back into the moment still surprises me. 

4. Get out of your head. 
Stay in your head, you’re dead. When I have weeks like this I tend to overthink everything. Suddenly I’m reading into things that are just crazy to take personally. I am learning to catch myself and recognize that I am just running on next to zero. I give myself grace, I decided not to judge myself and I turn the brain off. No more analyzing. I turn instead to movement and to my body to help me shift my energy.  I can’t trust my emotions right now anyway. It is not the time to analyze.


Move your body and get big: 
But I do know the way I position my body actually changed my hormones and neural synapses. There are massive emotion and body connection. So I either work out or I get really really big and power pose it. I know if I can shift my body and just get out of my head the positive energy flow will return. 

No more complaining. 
5. When we complain we are building the complaint highways in our brain. Our brain will make that our normal resting place. And then what happens is we start looking for what is wrong instead of what is right. No. Absolutely not the brain. Instead, we must decide and train our brain to not complain and to see the beauty everywhere. Complaining does not add value to anyone and most importantly it does add anything to our own lives. Why do people complain so much then? Because it’s the fastest way to connect to another person. When you complain we get attention, we get sympathy or empathy, and we feel more valuable. But we know there is a deeper and better way to get those needs met. Complaining is the instant gratification way to get the connection. Stop it in its tracks. Stop the habit. Say out loud something you learned from a hard situation instead. Remember where your focus goes energy flows. You are in control of what you focus on and so often our brains rethink about the same things over and over. Pay attention to what you focus on and what that does to your energy.  

6. Meditate. 
Just sit down. Take deep breathes. And ask God and the universe to please strengthen the best parts of yourself. Ask for strength in courage, in kindness, in power, in love. And image a light coming from above right into your heart. Just lighting you up and strengthening the things that make you amazing. 

7. Plan for something exciting to look forward to. 

Gives you a sense of control. Let’s you let go of the shit storm in the now. We will get into how to make friends and make the most of a new place while traveling in a different video. For now, go enjoy that ice- cream and let me know what else you do to get back to you on the down days. What happens when everything is falling apart? 

As travelers, we are putting ourselves out there a lot. 

So much has to come into place. 

The great recruiter who is on our side and paying us in a way where we feel confident. 

The housing that fingers crossed looks like we saw on craigslist. 

The interview where we hope all the questions will prepare us for the expectations at this assignment. 

The thoughts? Will they like us? Will I do a good job? Will I make new friends? Will I be lonely? 

Most of the time we learn the skills to roll with the punches. 

We learn to laugh at the random places we lay our heads. 
We learn to push through that first week on the job when it feels everything is spinning. 
We learn to be bold and make friends in such unexpected places. 

But sometimes. 

Sometimes we don’t. 

There will be some weeks that are really hard. 
Where it feels the word is against you. 
Where you get attacked and you don’t know why. 
Where you are in serious need of peanut butter cups. 

I want to talk about those weeks. 

Why? 
Because I just had one. 

And they suck. 
And they hurt. 

This week I had multiple attacks on what felt like my character. 
Attacks on Nomadicare. 
Attacks on if I could be trusted. 

I was already burnt out and it was a kick when what I really needed was a thank you or a hug. 

But life is not always going to give us hugs. Sometimes it will give us lessons. 

And even though in the moment you think “what the hell world” doesn’t mean that the lesson is not exactly what we need. 

For me, Nomadicare got some mean emails. The emails were completely misinformed about how I find my recruiters and run my business. Now mind you Nomadicare is like my child and when someone talks crap about my child I want to puff up. And after working 75 hours that week and feeling exhausted I also wanted to cry “Why are people so mean when I am trying to help!!” 

But instead, I listened. I wanted to understand why anyone would think these things. And because I took a deep breath and listened I learned more about an outsiders view and make a connection where there could have been choice words. 

It also made me step back and really think about Nomadicare and it’s mission. And at the end of the day no matter what people say or think about me and what I’m putting in this world I know I am living in alignment with my values. I know how much care I have for my process and in helping new travelers so they don’t go through what I did. And in that, I can always go to bed feeling great about trying to do good in this world. No one can take that away from me. 

What people think about you does not equal truth. 

I am learning to stand in my own truth no matter what people think about me. I know me. 

But at the end of the day, it still hurt. So what do we do now to be there for ourselves? Especially if we are alone and traveling!! 

What do we do: 

1. Slow down and have grace towards yourself. Remember you are doing your best and you are amazing. Let yourself feel sad if you need to and let go of the need to be perfect or do it all right. Meet yourself where you are at and just hang out there for a minute without trying to reason it or overthink it. Be the nurturing mother to yourself. Curl up, pour that glass of wine, eat the ice cream, watch the movie and leave the judgment at the door. 

2. Lay down and look at the stars. Find the brightest one. And listen to what it says to you. It will tell you exactly what you need to hear. For me last night it told me to stop being so hard on myself. And breathe. And they reminded me tomorrow is another day. 

3. Write your gratitude. And feel it. 
When you are feeling so low realize you are in control of your state of mind. And a fast way to start shifting that energy flow is gratitude. Yes, you have heard this. I hear this all the time. But somehow the power of actually writing my gratitude down- and taking the time to put my hand on my heart and going back into the moment still surprises me. 

4. Get out of your head. 
Stay in your head, you’re dead. When I have weeks like this I tend to overthink everything. Suddenly I’m reading into things that are just crazy to take personally. I am learning to catch myself and recognize that I am just running on next to zero. I give myself grace, I decided not to judge myself and I turn the brain off. No more analyzing. I turn instead to movement and to my body to help me shift my energy.  I can’t trust my emotions right now anyway. It is not the time to analyze.


Move your body and get big: 
But I do know the way I position my body actually changed my hormones and neural synapses. There is a massive emotion and body connection. So I either work out or I get really really big and power pose it. I know if I can shift my body and just get out of my head the positive energy flow will return. 

No more complaining. 
5. When we complain we are building the complaint highways in our brain. Our brain will make that our normal resting place. And then what happens is we start looking for what is wrong instead of what is right. "No. Absolutely not brain." Instead, we must decide and train our brain to not complain and to see the beauty everywhere. Complaining does not add value to anyone and most importantly it does add anything to our own lives. Why do people complain so much then? Because it’s the fastest way to connect to another person. When you complain we get attention, we get sympathy or empathy, and we feel more valuable. But we know there is a deeper and better way to get those needs met. Complaining is the instant gratification way to get the connection. Stop it in its tracks. Stop the habit. Say out loud something you learned from a hard situation instead. Remember where your focus goes energy flows. You are in control of what you focus on and so often our brains rethink about the same things over and over. Pay attention to what you focus on and what that does to your energy.  

6. Meditate. 
Just sit down. Take deep breathes. And ask God and the universe to please strengthen the best parts of yourself. Ask for strength in courage, in kindness, in power, in love. And image a light coming from above right into your heart. Just lighting you up and strengthening the things that make you amazing. 

7. Plan for something exciting to look forward to. 

Gives you a sense of control. Let’s you let go of the shit storm in the now. We will get into how to make friends and make the most of a new place while traveling in a different video. For now, go enjoy that ice- cream and let me know what else you do to get back to you on the down days.